Sexy

Eight years ago when I met my husband, my definition of sexy was very different than it is today. Back then it was his smile, his voice, his hands or a multitude of other characteristics. Over time, the definition has changed in many ways. I suppose that is normal in the course of a relationship.

I hadn't thought about it in awhile. As a couple, we have been pretty busy and scattered. Rick is stressed and extremely busy with school/studying. I am usually pretty consumed with the kids, any medical issues and trying to do at least a little housework. We spend very little time focused on each other. Lately, we have tried by instituting "date night" and just touching base for a quick minute at the end of the day. The honest truth is we are both usually exhausted by 9 pm and struggle to do anything. Most nights he usually studies until at least midnight and I am asleep by 11.

This morning I was racing to get Maggie ready and off to school. I came down stairs and saw Ricky wrestling with Ricky on the couch. They were both laughing and in that moment my husband was the sexiest I have ever seen him. Here he was, stressed out and exhausted, showing pure happiness with our son. Rick has his share of faults but his parenting is not one of them. I love listening to his conversations with Maggie. He patiently listens (better than he listens to me) to her. I have heard him give her explanations to her many questions such as, "Daddy how does the toilet work?" or "Daddy how far away is Hawaii and do you know how to get there?" For a guy not so into the physical, he lovingly showers her with hugs & kisses.

Now with Ricky, Rick spends a lot of time teaching him the right car noises or the different parts of a train. He loves hearing all the new words Ricks can say and enjoys each new milestone. He wrestles with him and tustles his hair when he says goodbye to him. The laughter and smiles are endless with both the kids.

So when I feel resentful or angry, I try to remember these moments. God has blessed my kids with not just a father but with a Dad who wants to be present 110%. I am thankful for a husband who works hard to provide not just the physical needs but the emotional/mental ones. When we struggle, Rick is willing to put in the work to provide our kids with a happy and loving home. How sexy can you get?